Resources
Support services.
HUMEN is not a crisis service. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 999 now. If you need to talk, these services can help. DETAILS TO VERIFY BEFORE LAUNCH
Urgent help
If someone’s life is at risk, or they have seriously hurt themselves, call 999 or go to A&E.
Emergency
999
If you or someone else is in immediate danger.
NHS 111
111
Urgent mental health support. In England, choose the mental health option.
Samaritans
116 123
Free, any time, day or night. Or email jo@samaritans.org.
Shout
Text SHOUT to 85258
Free, confidential text support, 24/7.
Spotting the signs
Men often show they’re struggling through changes in behaviour rather than words. You might notice someone:
- withdrawing from friends, family or things they used to enjoy
- drinking, gambling or using drugs more than usual
- sleeping much more or much less
- seeming angry, irritable or on edge
- talking about feeling trapped, a burden, or that there’s no point
- giving things away or putting their affairs in order
None of these mean something is definitely wrong, but they’re a reason to check in. COPY TO CONFIRM
Starting the conversation
You don’t need the perfect words. Showing up matters more than what you say.
- Pick a side-by-side moment: a walk, a drive, a game. It can feel easier than face to face.
- Ask twice. “How are you really doing?” often gets a different answer.
- Listen more than you talk, and don’t rush to fix it.
- If you’re worried about their safety, ask directly whether they’re thinking about suicide. Asking does not put the idea in their head.
- Agree a next step together, and check in again.
If they’re in immediate danger, call 999. COPY TO CONFIRM
Other support
If HUMEN isn’t the right fit, these organisations can help.
- CALM: 0800 58 58 58, 5pm to midnight, every day. Webchat at thecalmzone.net.
- Andy’s Man Club: free, peer-to-peer talking groups for men across the UK.
- Mind: information and support for mental health, at mind.org.uk.
- Papyrus HOPELINE247: 0800 068 4141, for young people under 35 and anyone worried about them.
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