I was coping. That was the word I used. Work was fine, the kids were fine, I was tired but everyone is tired. If you had asked me whether I was struggling, I would have said no and meant it.
The difference between coping and carrying
What I was actually doing was carrying. There is a difference. Coping is dealing with something and moving on. Carrying is dealing with it, keeping it, and adding the next thing on top.
The thing that changed it was small. My daughter asked why I never laughed any more. I didn’t have an answer, and that bothered me more than anything had for a long time.
What I’d say to another dad
Noticing is not failing. Noticing is the only part you can control. The rest, the route in, the person to talk to, HUMEN has already laid out. You just have to look at it.
